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Students will know if homework is really benefiting them or not so be sure to make it worth their while or they will be less willing to complete assignments in the future. Let’s take a look at the different steps you can take when it comes to using homework appropriately.

  • Preparing for it

    Homework should be a review or further practice of something learned in class so ensure that whatever homework you have assigned can be completed by students independently and with ease. To do this, conduct several comprehension tests and practice activities in class so that students feel confident enough with the material to work on their own. Encourage students to ask questions about anything they are unclear on. Indicate what pages of the textbook you are using so that students can find key information later on when you are not available to help them.

  • Giving it

    Think about the objective of each homework assignment before giving it to students to make sure that it will actually benefit them. Also, try to use a variety of exercises rather than the same ones over and over again (see our article ‘5 Most Creative Homework Assignments: Homework That Works’). When handing out homework, go over the directions in class to check that students understand what they are expected to do at home. Have students read the instructions aloud and ask them if they have any questions about the exercises. Do not assign new material as homework as students will not understand it and only become frustrated with the exercises as well as less open to discussing the topic in class. Sometimes you might want to give students the opportunity to think about a topic before you introduce it in class but in this case you should assign something very general for example tell students to try to think of three directions related words for the next class. This is not something you would collect so students do not have to give it a lot of thought or get stressed about it. In this case, you can spend some time at the beginning of the next class eliciting words from students about directions. If some of your students find homework assignments too challenging, arrange a tutorial once or twice a week either before or after school so that students can get extra help.

  • Checking it

    Once students have completed homework, you have to check it. This can be done a number of ways and depends a lot on the type of activity you assigned. You should check most writing exercises thoroughly for grammar, spelling and punctuation errors before asking students to present their work to the class. This will help them practice the right material rather than repeating mistakes. If the worksheet consists of fill in the blank or short answer type questions, check answers as a class before collecting the sheets from your students. This may mean that students who did not complete the homework will fill in the answers as they come up in class but if you notice a student doing this, you can mark him down for not doing the work at home and should take some time to talk to the student individually.

  • Grading it

    Not all homework has to be graded but this encourages students to actually do the work. Be sure to collect all homework assignments even if all you do is ensure that they have been completed. Other activities, such as the writing exercise mentioned above, you may consider giving grades on. It is up to you how many points the exercise is worth. When grading subjective material try to create a rubric which you can use to help you grade all the work the same way. Breaking down points into different categories such as spelling, content, and grammar will certainly help you with grading fairly.

  • Returning it

    When you return the homework assignments to your students give them another opportunity to ask questions about the material and encourage students with questions about their grades to meet with you after class to discuss their concerns. Students who consistently perform at a low level might need a second opportunity to complete the exercise once they have a better understanding of what you are looking for. This will give them the chance to earn more points towards a higher overall grade. In this situation, it is still better to be proactive and give these students special attention to begin with but a combination of both approaches may be the most successful.

  • By reserving larger reading and writing assignments for homework assignments, you can maximize your class time by conducting lots of speaking and listening activities. Homework also gives you more material to better evaluate individual student performance so it is very helpful when used correctly.

    Hello Homework!

    Click PLAY if you want to get to know me. Want to go straight to thoughts on homework? Read below!

    It's the beginning of fall, and as surely as leaves will drop, so will the homework. Pages and pages of it. Sometimes whole binders worth. Homework can be the source of many arguments in the home and I wanted to take a look at why, and what we can do about it. 

    In order to really understand what's going on, it helps to look at what's happening for both the parents and the kids, because homework is challenging for both of us in ways that are diametrically opposed, and this is how we so often wind up in conflict.

    AS PARENTS, we may be feeling:

    • a very understandable desire for our child to "do well." We may even be concerned that if our child can't do homework well, they won't do well in school, and then they won't do well in life.
    • Sometimes our own bad memories about school may be getting unconsciously stirred up, and in an effort to protect our child from such experiences, we may pressure our child to get things started off on the right foot.
    • Maybe we just want to get that darn homework over with so we can play!
    • Perhaps we are tired and exhausted from the long day of taking care of our other children, and we're already thinking about the impending bedtime and dreading yet another power struggle in our day.
    • Or maybe we are stressed out because we are still at the end of our own work day, and we are secretly hoping our child's homework will buy us a few extra minutes to finish up our own loose ends.

    As you can see, there may be many different reasons we parents can get stressed about homework. 

    Whatever our reasoning, our answer is often the same: Get that homework done! As soon as possible so we don't have to worry, fight, beg, or barter.


    They have had a whole day away from us, and who knows what challenges they had during the day?

    • Maybe their snack got lost.
    • Or someone teased them.
    • Or their new best friend suddenly won't talk to them.
    • Maybe they got called up to the board in math and got laughed at for not knowing how to do something.
    • Maybe they had a great day and are longing to share it with us!
    • Or maybe it was just a whole lot of boring.

    Whatever their day, what they really need when they see us is a safe landing. A place to let it all go so they can regroup, and reconnect with who they are when they are safe, at home, in their family. 

    Homework does not accomplish that. 

    Am I suggesting that homework is therefore unimportant?

    Not at all. Unless it isn't to you. :) Let me explain... I always think each parent must parent according to their own values, and the values of the school they are part of. Some parents and schools place a huge emphasis on homework, others don't at all. So one thing to wonder about is are you at the right school for your family's values? And then if homework is important to you, then by all means you can help support your child to complete it, but that is not the same thing as just forcefully telling them to do it.

    Assuming you feel homework is important, then...


    *all while maintaining everyone's sanity and goodwill 

    First and foremost, FILL THEIR CUP - literally and figuratively. One way to do this is to offer  special time or any form of child-led reconnection before even attempting homework. Some way of letting them see you are not just another thing in their life needing something from them. You care about who THEY are, and you want to give them a chance to be in charge and show you whatever would give them joy, while you join in with them. Also food! Their brains need filling at this point too. Many will have foregone good nutrition throughout the day and they need protein and some good healthy fats to get their brains functioning again. For some kids, a snack and this special time together will be enough. That alone will get them feeling abundant and clear thinking again, and literally at that point they will want to do (or at least be open to doing) their homework.

    But what about the kids who don't? Well, here are some tips for the ones who require quite a bit more...

    • Don't underestimate the power of your presence! Sometimes parents think, "Well I don't understand a certain subject, so how can I help?" But often, just the act of you caring and sitting close is enough. Literally snuggling with your younger child while they do their homework can make it a time of sweet connection and be very healing. I used to have one of my kids do all his homework while he snuggled on my lap and I looked on, or even read a book. This worked well for us for years.
    • If a child is older or more guarded, then add in some play-listening. If they say the homework is boring, pretend that every time you look at it you fall dead asleep, and just can't figure out why. Anything that gets the giggles flowing - especially if you are allowing yourself to be a bit of a buffoon, and therefore in a lesser "power" position than them. This will conversely waken up their own feelings of confidence and power, which is exactly what they need to access in order to tackle those pages!
    • Let them feel smart and like they get the homework way more than you do. ie "They want you to divide what into whaaaaat?? That's craaaazy!!!!" Let them teach you. This again will boost their confidence. Instead of jumping into teaching them, wonder about the problems with them. Be by their side. Literally and figuratively, believing in them while you let them struggle but are right there caring and helping when needed. Your belief in them will go a longer way than you might imagine. This also brings up the idea that we need to clean up our beliefs about our kids because people tend to become whatever we believe about them. Sometimes parents get so fed up, we say things like "You always give up," or "You're going to fail." Those may be our fears but that does not mean they are their reality. Instead, honor their struggle and tell them you know they will figure it out.

    Why? Well, it all comes down to the extraordinary power of growth mindset and the power of "yet." It turns out that teaching children that every mistake they make is actually a super helpful learning curve that just made them smarter is a very powerful way to instill hope. And hope breeds perseverance. And perseverance breeds success. They may not have gotten it fully YET, but they are on their way. Their success is inevitable. Think of Thomas Edison's wonderful quote: "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

    What about kids who still won't do their homework?

    On some level, if you are offering all this contact and support and your child still won't do it, this means they can't yet.

    Not that they don't have the mental or academic ability, but that something substantial is blocking them from their own power and belief in themselves. Just the other day, my 8 year old was trying to go over some summer math sheets, and got so discouraged by a multiplication problem that he literally spent one hour upset. I tried to help in all the ways I mention here, but his brain just wouldn't have it. Even as we tried to connect, and then kept returning to the problem, breaking it down into ever simpler components, he got to a place where he sat there in tears saying I don't know what 1 plus 1 is. I DON'T KNOW!!! And you know what? I believe him. In that moment, he did not have access to his prefrontal cortex. His brain had decided he was unsafe and so at that moment he was in full fight or flight survival mode. Think of it like this, if you just had a car accident, and were standing shaking by the side of the road and I asked for your phone number - a number you clearly know - it literally might be impossible for you to remember it at that moment. So I fully gave up on the homework. Instead I just sat with him, and did my best to cuddle with him although he wanted none of it. I gave him some time to blow off some steam and then we went and played. About two hours later he suddenly came up to me, completed homework in hand and a huge grin on his face. 

    In general, whenever we have to hold a limit for our children - and homework is certainly one such limit - it works best to really honor their struggle as we hold the limit and to let them wail and cry, knowing those tears get out the gunk that stands in the way, and you are likely to have a smarter stronger kid on the other end. Those tears may look like refusal or failure but they are often the paved road to success if you and your child both know how to walk that road.

    I hope this thinking on homework has been helpful for you, and for more info on this or anything else that may be on your mind, feel free to reach out to me directly anytime. 

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